Young people & facial pain

You are more than your pain.

Clear information, real experiences and practical support for young people living with trigeminal neuralgia or other facial pain conditions — and for the people around them.

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Facial pain is not one diagnosis.

Choose the route that fits what you know today. New or persistent facial pain deserves proper clinical assessment rather than self-diagnosis.

01

I have TN

Understand the condition, prepare for appointments and find practical support.

TN information
02

I have another facial pain condition

TN is not the only cause of facial pain and the right route depends on the diagnosis.

Other facial pain
03

I don’t have a diagnosis yet

Keep a simple record of what happens and what it stops you doing, then take it to a healthcare professional.

Find support
People, not just pages

Meet people who understand.

Pain can be isolating when nobody your age seems to know what it is. Human support matters.

Online peer support

Young People’s RSG

Meet other younger people affected by TN and facial pain. Ask the team what is coming up and how to join.

Find the group
One-to-one connection

Friendship Line

If you would value friendly contact, ask the team about the Friendship Line and whether it is the right support for you.

Ask the team

If you are under 18 and need support, talk to a parent, carer, teacher, school safeguarding lead or health professional you trust, where it is safe to do so. If anyone is in immediate danger, call 999.

Friends & going out

What do I say when pain changes my plans?

You do not have to explain everything. A short, honest sentence is enough. You deserve to stay included even when pain means you sometimes have to say no.

If I can’t go out

“I really want to come, but my facial pain is bad today. I’m not ignoring you — I need to rest. Please still invite me next time.”

If I’m worried they’ll think I’m weird

“My pain is real even if you can’t see it. I might need to leave early, stay somewhere warm or change plans. I’m still me.”

Keep inviting meA no today does not mean I never want to come.
Change the planA quieter, shorter or warmer activity might work better.
Don’t make it a big thingAsk what helps, then carry on normally.
Believe meInvisible pain is still pain.
Stay connectedA message or call can matter on a bad day.
Need the words?

What do I say?

You do not need a perfect explanation. Tap the person you want to tell and use the words as they are, or change them so they sound like you.

A friend

“I have a facial pain condition. Sometimes I have to change plans at short notice. Please keep inviting me — I still want to be included.”

A teacher or lecturer

“My facial pain can affect speaking, eating and concentration. If it flares, I may need a short break or a quieter space. I’ll let you know what helps.”

A coach or club leader

“I want to take part, but some days my pain means I may need to stop early or sit something out. Please ask me rather than assuming I can’t join in.”

A part-time employer

“I live with a facial pain condition. Most of the time I manage it, but occasionally I may need a short break or to explain if pain is affecting me.”

Life outside facial pain

You can still be you.

Pain may change some days. It does not decide who you are, who your friends are or what your future can be.

Parties & birthdays

Going for a shorter time, arriving later or leaving early can still mean being part of it.

Sport & activities

Tell the person in charge what you need on a difficult day. Taking part can look different from one day to the next.

Eating out

If eating or temperature is difficult for you, choosing where and when to meet can make plans easier.

Cold, wind & travel

If weather or travel is difficult for you, tell people before the plan starts so changing it does not feel like a last-minute crisis.

Part-time work

You can explain the practical effect of the pain without telling everyone your full medical history.

Cancelling plans

One cancelled plan does not make you unreliable or a bad friend. A quick message and another invitation can keep the connection going.

You are still you — on good days, bad days and the days in between.

Treatment & appointments

Make appointments work for you.

Treatment depends on the cause of the facial pain. You do not need to remember everything in the room — a short list can help you explain what is happening and leave with clearer answers.

Write down what happens

Note where the pain is, what it feels like, how long it lasts, what seems to trigger it and what it stops you doing.

Take your medicines list

Include what you take, the dose if you know it, and any side effects. Do not stop or change prescribed medicine without advice from the clinician responsible for your care.

Ask the questions that matter

You can ask what diagnosis is being considered, whether tests are needed, what treatment options exist, what side effects to watch for and what happens if the plan does not help.

Say what pain is doing to your life

Tell them if it is affecting eating, talking, sleep, school, college, work, travel or seeing friends. That information matters.

Take someone with you

If you want to, bring a parent, carer or another trusted adult. They can help you remember what was said and make sure your questions are heard.

Remember: facial pain is not one condition

Treatments used for TN are not automatically right for every other facial pain condition. The diagnosis and your own circumstances matter.

This section is for preparing for a conversation with a healthcare professional, not for choosing or changing treatment yourself.

School, college & university

Make it easier to explain.

Pain, treatment and appointments can affect concentration, speaking, eating, sleep, attendance and confidence.

To a teacher

“I have a facial pain condition. I may occasionally need a short break, a quiet space or a different way to communicate.”

To a friend

“If I go quiet, stop eating or need to leave, I’m not being rude. I’m trying to get through the pain.”

Explain the painUse simple words. You do not have to tell everyone everything.
Short breaksAgree what happens if you need a quiet space.
Missed workAsk how you can catch up after pain or appointments.
Exams & studyAsk early if pain or treatment is affecting learning.
Choose one personOne trusted member of staff can make things easier.
Quick quiz

How much do you know?

This is for learning, not for diagnosing TN or another facial pain condition.

1. If facial pain is severe but nobody can see anything wrong, can the pain still be real?

2. Should every young person with facial pain assume it is TN?

3. Can facial pain affect eating, talking, studying or going outside?

4. If pain or treatment affects school or college, is it reasonable to tell a trusted member of staff?

5. Is online information a replacement for individual medical advice?

Grace during her fundraising challenge
Real story

Grace

Grace’s story is already part of TNA’s history. TNA has reported her experience of TN, her family’s support and two separate fundraising efforts: first friendship bracelets, then a 20-mile walk for International Trigeminal Neuralgia Day.

Friendship bracelets

Grace’s first fundraiser involved making and selling friendship bracelets for TNA.

20-mile walk

TNA later reported that her separate 20-mile challenge raised more than £2,350.

Read Grace’s TNA storyFirst fundraiser20-mile walk
Another young voice

Molly

Molly underwent microvascular decompression (MVD) as a teenager and later spoke at TNA’s conference in London. Her experience is part of our history of young people living with TN.

Read the TNA story

Real people.
Real experiences.
Real support.

Parents & carers

Support them without making pain their whole life.

Young people still need privacy, friendships, education, independence and plans of their own. Parents and carers often need support too.

Carer informationContact TNA

Prepare for appointments. Keep a simple record of symptoms, questions and treatment effects.

Keep education involved. Share what staff need to know, not the whole medical history.

Listen to the young person. Ask how they want help offered.

Look after yourself too. Caring can affect work, sleep and family life.

Give young people more

Support today. Better answers tomorrow.

Your support helps us provide information and human support, raise awareness, strengthen patient voice and research, and work towards better diagnosis, better treatment and ultimately a cure.

Support young people

Help build practical information, school resources, peer connection and family support.

Drive research

Help improve understanding, diagnosis and treatment and support research towards a cure.

Fundraise your way

Walk, run, create, celebrate or take on a challenge that means something to you.

Young people can shape TNA too

Use your experience to make things better.

Your experience can help us improve information, campaigns and support for the next young person who needs us.

Share your story

Help another young person feel less alone.

Create with us

Help with writing, video, photography or school resources where appropriate.

Shape TNA

Tell us what is missing and what young people actually need.

Raise awareness

Help schools, healthcare professionals and the public understand facial pain.

Fundraise

Turn an idea, event or challenge into support for the community.

Quick answers

Questions young people ask

How do I explain facial pain to my friends?

Keep it short. Tell them what the pain can stop you doing, what helps, and that you still want to be included.

What if I have to cancel plans?

Say that the pain is bad today, not that you do not want to see them. Ask them to keep inviting you.

Can school or college help?

Tell a trusted member of staff if pain or treatment is affecting learning, attendance, speaking, eating or concentration.

Where can I meet other young people?

Ask TNA about the Young People’s RSG and other current support options.

This information is general and does not replace individual medical advice. If you have new, severe or persistent facial pain, seek advice from an appropriate healthcare professional.

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